Thursday, April 30, 2009

Accepted and loved

You know how kids go thorugh growth spurts? They eat and sleep a lot and then next thing you know their jeans don't fit. Well I've been going through a growth spurt, in a different way. Emotionally, spiritually, relationally. And my jeans don't fit either, but it's because they're too big.
I am amazed at how emotional eating is just so much less a part of my life, and how my appetite has decreased overall. In the midst of tremendous transition and sometimes painful growth, I'm feeling more accepted and loved than ever.
How do you experience acceptance and love?
Who pours acceptance and love into your emotional cup?
If you feel accepted and loved, how does that affect the other areas of your life?
Is it easier to care for your body and heart when you accept and love yourself?
Then how does this self care, self acceptance, self love affect your relationships with God and other humans?
If sex is giving your self, then what kind of self do you think you're giving?

I'm looking forward to sharing with you some of the good changes that are taking place in my heart. Some posts will come sooner than others. Good art percolates in the heart. Love, Shula

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Change the World

I woke up today with the song Change the World on my heart. It feels peaceful and appropriate. Today I open my store, This is a culmination of over a year of design and development and many years of life experience. In some way, I've been preparing for this all my life. As I shared here, I was ushered into sex in an abusive way. Codependency and an essentially boundaryless life resulted. I was a city without walls. But healing happens. And healing can be hot. Boy oh boy, can it ever! Sometimes healing is 3 steps forward 2 steps back, but healing comes. As I started to experience healing, I could not be quiet anymore. Even though I was convinced no one would read this blog, I scrunched up my courage, stepped up to the microphone and spoke my story. And you dear people talked back. Comments and emails that bring tears to my eyes just remembering.

The story that emerged is that people who have struggled with sexual abuse or sexual addiction or codependency want to have sober sex. And that sober sex, healthy sex can be hot. That toys and bedroom adventure gear can be a beautiful erotic addition to healthy sex. That healing can be oh-so-hot! So when a recovering person wants to get their healthy sexy groove on, where can they shop for sexy treats that won't threaten their recovery where can they go? And if they have a bad back and find that sex is painful or causes a flareup, where can they go? I felt such a tug in my heart to share the products that have worked for me and to share them in a beautiful classy way that was sexy and fun and respectful toward recovery.

So I did. And we have. I knew a job this big would mean a 'we' not a 'me'. I have the best team a woman could hope for. Beloved Customer Care who was the first one to come alongside me. (she's @sensuoushelp on twitter) Several Beloved Vendors who have contributed in turn...Web Developers, Graphic Designers all who gave from their heart and many who gave their time. And last but not least Beloved Project Manager who kept us and continues to keep us all on track, including me.
I have a lump in my throat and the sting of unshed tears in my eyes, because today's the day. Sober is sexy. is open! In my own small way, I have changed the world.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Shula's Sensuous Swedish Pancakes

These pancakes are higher in protein and lower in carbs than traditional pancakes. Perfect for The Orgasmic Diet. The coconut oil adds a lovely aroma. Be sure to save some coconut oil for more sensuous pursuits*. (wink)

4 eggs
2 cups milk
3/4 cup all purpose flour
1 Tbsp Splenda
1/4 tsp salt
2 Tbsp melted coconut oil

Beat the eggs until just barely fluffy-about 2 minutes. Add milk, continue to beat on medium speed. Add flour, Splenda and salt, then coconut oil. Ladle onto hot griddle that has been lubricated with coconut oil. Cook gently until just barely dry then flip and continue cooking for half a minute. Serve warm with butter and lingonberries.
Thank you @StanCoMarriage and MichiganTalberts for requesting this. Y'all enjoy!

*coconut oil is a wonderful lubricant for massage and intercourse