tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5433750302606470563.post5579852800986018122..comments2023-05-01T09:24:25.500-05:00Comments on Sensuous Wife: SW rantsSensuous Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01684099151087715262noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5433750302606470563.post-44432029648715828642008-07-02T22:32:00.000-05:002008-07-02T22:32:00.000-05:00Your statement "Who wants to fuck an angry woman?"...Your statement "Who wants to fuck an angry woman?" Came to mind last night.<BR/><BR/>My wife and I had a good night of loving the night before, she was even more aggresive than normal, which was wonderful.<BR/><BR/>We didn't get to bed until 11 or so, and I didn't realize it at the time, or had forgotten that she got up at 4 am.<BR/><BR/>I had big hopes of a second night of loving before I left town.<BR/><BR/>Well, a few bumps on the way. She was frustrated with some hurts that others have inflicted on her, and then I compounded the hurt by not paying attention and not empathizing very well. I hate it when I do that.<BR/><BR/>We did practice some of my advice, in that we did one of the tools we know to do to dissipate anger.<BR/><BR/>We got to a somewhat better place, and then I just let her fall asleep.<BR/><BR/>I left this morning before she was out of bed.<BR/><BR/>The good news is that when we talked this morning, we were both civil and apologetic for last night and both admitted we hated parting that way.<BR/><BR/>I guess I share this so you realize you have a fellow traveler on this up and down, twisting and turning marriage journey, that sometimes doesn't always go as in our heart of hearts we desire.<BR/><BR/>Both of us wonder at times, why marriage is so hard- at least for us in spite of our best efforts.<BR/><BR/>A friend of ours often reminds us that "Life outside the Garden of Eden has its problems."<BR/><BR/>Hope I didn't ramble too much.Who am Ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02641904852433953638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5433750302606470563.post-79646506118508208902008-06-30T20:44:00.000-05:002008-06-30T20:44:00.000-05:00Beth, I am just tickled pink to meet you. The firs...Beth, I am just tickled pink to meet you. The first time I saw Prague in my blog stats and could see it was not an accident that someone had deliberately looked for my blog from that far away, I clapped my hands over my mouth and squealed with joy. So it's YOU! My beloved reader in Prague! Mwah~ And what you said was just precious. Thank you, Beth. I hope you post comments again.<BR/><BR/>Whoami, you have such practical insight. I can tell you're a good man who's been there. And your second post! Well, I'll answer that. My answer is C both of the above. Sometimes, I need to process to get to the point where my sexuality can get untangled from my other negative emotions. And sometimes, we affirm and love each other in spite of the circumstances. Couples can have this tendency to go to their separate corners when they're under stress especially from an external circumstance. But it can be SO passionate, so healing to wrap your sweet skins around each other despite the circumstances. I really believe that God gave married couples sex as a built in free hourlong vacation whenever they need it. I wrote a poem after one such experience, called We're Busy. I wish I knew how to put links in comments. For now, here's the long link:<BR/><BR/>http://sensuouswife.blogspot.com<BR/>/2007/05/were-busy.htmlSensuous Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01684099151087715262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5433750302606470563.post-49854057639451220442008-06-30T00:05:00.000-05:002008-06-30T00:05:00.000-05:00Here is a question that I have been pondering that...Here is a question that I have been pondering that came back to my mind as I was reading this.<BR/><BR/>When things in your life, basically unrelated to your husband, such as work, or other relationship struggles, or life in general- have really stirred alot of emotions in you- does it help your sexual passion and desire for your husband more if a: he patiently listens to you process it all, in some mannner before moving on to sex or b: he encourages you to just set that all aside- and make passionate love?<BR/><BR/>Or does it depend on your mood and circumstances whether a or b is more helpful to enhancing passion.<BR/><BR/>The reason I ask is that sometimes when my wife and I process all that whatever, it sort of clears the decks for more passion, other times, it seems we can get into a negative spiral about her stuff and my stuff and I wonder if I should just firmly say something- like "ok dear- let's each lay aside all of this stuff, and just focus on making passionate love- I don't want all of this to drag us down.Who am Ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02641904852433953638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5433750302606470563.post-52664610164625068152008-06-29T23:58:00.000-05:002008-06-29T23:58:00.000-05:00And when I'm angry at myself in close proximity to...And when I'm angry at myself in close proximity to Delighted Husband, it sounds like I'm angry at him. But I'm not. I'm angry AT myself NEAR him. But who wants to fuck an angry woman?<BR/><BR/>I have been pondering this in light of what you said here and in your later posts.<BR/><BR/>I think you did a great thing by processing your anger with others so that it didn't totally mess up your time and passion with your husband.<BR/><BR/>If my wife and I were in this situation, there are a couple of other possible positive solutions and a negative one.<BR/><BR/>One solution would be to use the various tools we have learned, so that we could process her anger together. Normally, then our passion comes roaring back.<BR/><BR/>Another possible positive solution, when the anger is not towards me, would be for her to just channel that anger into some really passionate fucking with me. That might be very hard for her to do, maybe not depending on the day.<BR/><BR/>The negative solution, which would really stress our relationship, and stir anger in me- would be to suppress all that anger, lose desire for me, and then either not make love, or half heartedly make love.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing.Who am Ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02641904852433953638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5433750302606470563.post-13737043093892450492008-06-29T04:00:00.000-05:002008-06-29T04:00:00.000-05:00Sensuous wife, I've been reading your blog off and...Sensuous wife, I've been reading your blog off and on for a while now and have really been touched by many of your posts, but I've never commented till now. This post and the follow up post you posted about it really resonated with me. This is a place I have been. I often get so upset with myself and that anger comes out not at my husband but "near" him, as you said, and often in my case he takes it personal... I feel guilty about it and let it eat me up instead of taking it to God and the whole thing just gets worse. Thank you for sharing this post and the above post you wrote about what happened after this post - I was blessed to see that I'm not alone. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com